When you find yourself single after the break up of a long and meaningful relationship chances are you will be sad and lonely and longing to have the situation restored. If so you need to plan to get your ex back.
There are three things you need to do.
Stand back and do nothing.
Yes that is correct sometimes the situation calls for you to do nothing. Do not react while your emotions are running high. You need a clear head to plan your next move so take whatever time is needed until you are thinking logically.
Don’t dwell on your sorrows during this time. Try rather to concentrate on totally different things. Take some quality time off with yourself. Take in a movie, play golf, go to the beach or do some shopping. Do whatever is needed to clear your head for the trying times that lie ahead.
Give and receive space.
Your break up has occurred for a reason and whatever that reason is you both need some space. So don’t go contact your ex. This will simply make matters worse as they are also suffering and need time and space to sort things out.
Remember also that emotions are running high at this time and whatever is said and done could do more harm than good. Both of you will be hurting and things may be said that are not meant but that aggravate the situation.
You may or may not want to spend time with your friends and family and you may or may not want to see anyone of the opposite sex. Whatever you do don’t do it because you are hurting. Doing things on the rebound to prove a point is negative not positive.
Start again.
The bad news is you have to realize that you need to start again. Don’t be overly confident and think that your past record will count towards a successful conclusion.
Come up with a strategy that will reignite the spark that they once had for you.
Work out a plan that will get them to want to talk to you again and then have something definite and positive to communicate to them. Simply saying stuff like “I’m sorry” or “I love you” or “I won’t ever do that again – I promise” is not exactly positive conversation and will only remind them of your failings in the first place.
Your plan needs to have a road map that will take you from where you are now to where you want to be – which presumably is back in their arms.
Give your past relationship some serious thought and work out ways that will stimulate curiosity, attraction and passion from your ex.
There are lots of useful guides and ideas on the Internet and thousands of people just like you talking daily in forums. Join these forums and talk to people and get some ideas.
Remember if you really want to succeed you need a plan to get your ex back – not some haphazard emotionally charged knee jerk reaction that will make things worse.
If you would like some help on planning a strategy to get your ex back and don’t know where to turn take a look at the Second Chance website where I you will find some ideas to help you.
Remember to plan to get your ex back for the best chance of success.
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