by K.M. George
If everyone knew how to stop the arguments, this world would be a much happier place, wouldn’t it?! One of the keys to putting your relationship back together, and to get your ex back, is how you relate to one another.
Most arguments believe it or not, start because you are not relating well to the other person. This means you or the other person said something that sent the other off the deep end.
If you think about it, it is true!
You need to calm down, take a couple of deep breaths, and start fresh. Let me give you an example.
Dave is late again. His wife Lori is absolutely furious, she spent a lot of time getting a nice dinner ready for Dave, hoping they would have a nice romantic evening together.
Dave comes home with a bottle of wine in hand and says, “I’m sorry I’m late.” Lori says,” I am so sick of you saying your sorry, and you still come home late every night. You ruined a perfectly good dinner!”
Dave is really angry now, he replies, ” I said I WAS SORRY!- What else do you want me to do?! ”
I’m sure you can guess how the rest of the evening unfolds.
Now if you want an effective way to get back your ex, you need to revamp how you respond to people and situations. Lets try this scenario:
Dave walks in the door late again, with a bottle of wine and says ” You must be so frustrated and angry with me right now.”
Lori responds, “Yes, I am! Why do you come home late so often?”
Dave replies,” I am feeling a little bogged down at work, and I have let it interfere with us, I am sorry.”
Lori says, ” Tell me what is going on at the office.”
Can you see the difference in the two scenarios? I certainly can, the latter is much more calm, and relaxed. You can pretty much guess, Lori will put the dinner in the microwave for Dave, and they will sit down with the bottle of wine and talk.
Both of them will feel much better for it too! Dave will get his work stress off his chest, and Lori will feel like Dave is confiding in her and needs her.
Obviously there is much more that has to be done in order to get your ex back than the above. There is a whole series of steps involved. If you only take one step out of the series, then you will end up falling flat on your face.
Discover the rest of the steps to get back your ex.
